It’s around this time of year that often we tend to feel a bit low thinking about how many of our new years resolutions we have “broken”. We can be quite cruel to ourselves and feel a bit defeated and flat.
Well, quite frankly that’s bloody miserable so why don’t we just alter the way we look at things a little bit to allow ourselves to feel hopeful and proud again even if things aren’t “PERFECT”.
Why not give it a try? :) X
Taken from “You Can Be An Optimist: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life” by Lucy MacDonald.
“The next time you flick on the light switch, thank Thomas Edison and his ability to overcome setbacks. Edison experimented more than 10,000 times before producing the first incandescent light bulb in 1879. When asked about his previous failures while trying to discover the secrets of the light bulb, Thomas Edison is quoted as saying, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Edison worked with optimism, persistence and passion to create more than 1,000 patents.
Not only do we benefit from his inventions, but we can also learn much from the way that Edison dealt with failure. Adopting his principles, we will see how setbacks, rather than knocking you off course, can help you get closer to your goal.
Tolerate failure. Failure is an integral part of the process of trying to accomplish something. Be realistic – do not be surprised or disheartened to find obstacles in your way, but believe that you have what it takes to overcome them.
Believe you will succeed the next time. Edison always considered success to be just around the corner. Adopting this attitude will ensure that you channel all your energies into every attempt, increasing your chances of success.
Don’t take it personally. Edison did not consider himself to be a poor inventor just because his experiments didn’t always work. Likewise, successful sales people do not blame themselves every time they experience a rejection – if they did, their morale would become so damaged that they would not be able to carry on. When things go wrong, do not waste time and effort berating yourself. Save your energy for the next attempt.
Keep on keeping on. Thomas Edison did not live on inspiration alone, as he underlined in his now famous quote “Genius is one per cent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration”
Learn the lessons. Edison considered his failures to be crucial to his success because each of them gave him an opportunity to learn something new. Analyze your setbacks, draw meaning from them, and use your new-found insight to hone your next attempt.
Look for success within failure. Sometimes when we fail to achieve our target, we may accidently succeed in accomplishing something else. Don’t be haunted by your setbacks, be inspired by them.
For each attempt, ask yourself the following questions to help you analyze what happened:
What was I trying to achieve?
Why didn’t it work?
Can I identify any successful aspects of the experience?
What lessons have I learnt as a result of this experience
What will I do differently next time?
Hope this inspires you to be a bit kinder to yourself and realise that you can do it X
Lots of love and kind regards,