It is a time of the year a lot of us struggle with, the winter blues are in full flow and we may have had a few setbacks with keeping our new years resolutions.
We need to commit to keeping ourselves as happy as we can be and this great exercise is taken from “you can be an optimist: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life” by Lucy MacDonald.
Make your self-talk positive
Your most important conversations are the ones you conduct with yourself. Self-talk governs your emotional state, which in turn affects your mental and physical well-being. The following exercise shows you how to shift the balance of power in your self-talk from the negative to the positive.
First, determine the number of negative statements you make to yourself during a typical day. Place two jars in your workspace- one filled with coins, the other empty. Every time you have a negative thought, transfer a coin into the empty jar. At the end of the day count the coins – are there more coins in the negative thought jar than the other?
The next day list 28 negative things that you think about yourself – for example, “I’m no good with computers.” Take 28 index cards (one for each day of the next four weeks) and on each card write a positive version of your negative statement or a positive response to it – for example, “I can take a computing course if I want to.”
At the start of each day take one card and put it where you will see it often. Whenever you see your card, read it to yourself five times.
At the end of the four week period, repeat step 1. This time there should be fewer coins in your negative- thought jar.
Why not give it a go? Often we are exceptionally harsh on ourselves, often without fully realising it. In criticising ourselves we are only harming ourselves so if we want to focus on our well-being then this is something to take seriously.
Stop being so mean!!
Good luck and lots of love,